Stereotypes

I am very fascinated by gender and gay stereotypes.  I'm sure we all understand that there is a broad spectrum of gay people from "super butch,"let's go to Home Depo bro." to super effeminate, "OMG that is the cutest clutch purse I have ever seen!!!!!!" 

Personally I fall somewhere in the middle, liking a lot of guy things and a lot of not so guy things, but why are they guy things to begin with?  Society is very particular about their gender roles, and from infancy boys wear blue, girls wear pink.  Being a tomboy is okay, but being a sissy is just wrong, which is why so many gay teens or teens that are even perceived to be gay are getting so much crap. That has to stop. 

In examining gender stereotypes, take this example of Kurt and Finn from Glee.  Though they are in clothing more typically worn by the other character, their stereotypes seem to seep through.  For some odd reason, Finn is so dramatically masculine in his behavior that even in a Gaga outfit he seems really butch.  Kurt on the other hand is so obviously gay, even in a "man's" outfit.  

I remember in high school doing a lot of digging on body language, so that I could act more masculine so that I would not be perceived as gay.  (Understand that I'm not really that queeny, I mean, I'm more feminine than some, but I was just so uncomfortable with my sexual identity that I didn't want to get found out.)  Needless to say, I spent a lot of time worrying about the way others saw me when I should have been worrying about how I saw myself.  I think we should all embrace who we are, regardless where we fall on that gaydar scale.  If you are comfortable with yourself and your natural body language, then the extreme stereotypical gayness or atypical buchness of other gays won't bother you.
I wonder if some gay people's desire for masculine men stems from a fear of their orientation.  They still aren't comfortable being gay and would rather be with someone who could be perceived as their "buddy".  Or maybe we just like a masculine guy.

A final word on the topic.  Do you think that there is a reason there are so many gay stereotypes?  Why?  And how do you personally feel about those stereotypes?